Apr 9, 2009

Nobody Said It Would Be Easy


Having babies 13 months apart is tough, tough. I always feel like one is getting slighted in some way. It never fails that they both need momma love at the same time or juice or messes cleaned up. It's almost like 2 tiny tornadoes spinning simultaneously and when they cross paths ... look out! They make 2 times the messes and have 2 times the needs. Neither is very patient nor likely to wait just a minute. I can SO sympathize with moms of twins. I feel your pain! I know that some people choose to have their babies close together in age, but I prefer to space them out a little. It seems easier that way. My grandmother had 5 under 5! When Tucker was born, I felt so guilty that we had robbed Millie of her babyness. She was no longer the baby, but a big sister now. I often have to remind myself that she is only 2. But some days it seems like I spend all day cleaning up after these little people. Yesterday, I was putting Amelia's books back on her bookshelf for the 10,000th time; so the babies decided to empty an entire bag of goldfish out into the living room floor and add half a box of mini Nilla wafers. When Archie is home, it's a bit better because we can somewhat divide and conquer. But even with both of us on duty last night, Millie managed to empty half a bottle of powder out in her room; dusting the books that were off the shelf yet again and filling her shape sorting pail to the rim. The vacuum should really get paid overtime. Sigh ... they say it gets better; that when they are older, they'll be great friends. We'll see. I do know that one of the sweetest things is seeing them hug one another and how their wee arms are just the right size for little hugs.

Remind me of that when I'm vacuuming pretzels out of the couch in a bit, OK?

8 comments:

Mindy said...

I totally hear ya! I feel guilty often about how close my girls are. M and L are only 17 months apart....I know M was robbed of being a baby, but even A was only 3 when L was born..... and not quite 2 when M was born.....just wanting you to know that I can sympathize with ya!!!

Mrs. C said...

One of the nice things is that the potty training and car seat thing is over around the same time, too.

Don't lose heart. :]

Laura said...

Lisa, your description of the two of them is so darn sweet. Sorry about the mess and the hecticness of it all, but honey...you make it seem pretty reasonable to do! Good work.

((hugs))

~ A Moxie Mom said...

I'm right there with you. Lauren & evan are 14 months apart. We are almost out of pullups and the messes are fewer and farther in between. I love watching them play together, however recently they have also began ganging up on me. (their giggles give them away). I'm proud of them for having each others back just not so much when it's against mom.

Michelle said...

I have so btdt! My first two were 13 months apart and it was TOUGH when they were little, but now they are WAY closer than any of my other kids...

it does get easier! Hugs!

Heather said...

ohhh Lisa, I feel for you.I have ONE tornado and don't know anyone does it w/more than one lol. I am so sick of cleaning up messes that I could scream. But, it wouldn't do any good lol. So far, for me, it's gotten HARDER as he's gotten older. he was an easy baby, then the tantrum 3's hit and all hell broke lose. He is soo darn bossy and demanding now lol. (((HUGS))) you wanna go on vaca w/me? Somewhere warm,far away and where ppl wait on US for a change LMAO

~LL~ said...

I feel ya....I really do! LOL!

Not only that, but then you have to do all of that, at the same time of taking one to piano lessons when the other needs to go to soccer practice AT THE SAME TIME and your hubby is flying some rich S.O.B. to St. Thomas for a holiday and you don't have enough money to go to McDonald's because payday is TOMORROW and you really want a Dr Pepper because you haven't had one in almost 2 months and.....oh sorry....that's my life...what were you saying? LOL!

LYIS said...

I can totally relate! Although, you've just given me a little glimpse into what it will be like when they are mobile and getting into things. For now, I just feel like you in that one is always getting slighted on the mama love. I think it's hard now! Someday I will look back and say "geez, what was so hard? All I had to do was hold you both all day!"